The American Philosopher and Psychologist, William James said, “The world we see that seems so insane is the result of a belief system that is not working. To perceive the world differently, we must be willing to change our belief system, let the past slip away, expand our sense of now, and dissolve the fear in our minds.”
Beliefs can be changed. The inherent problem is that the older we get, the more our beliefs become entrenched, and the more difficult it becomes to “re-wire” your old negative thought patterns.
Children are like sponges. Of course, we know that. If a child grows up to believe he is not worth anything or not good enough, or he can’t do it without help, through repeatedly being told something along those lines, how successful do you think he would be in creating a life and career where he feels in control with joy and enthusiasm? And, just as importantly, how would his views tarnish his relationships with other people?
Your belief systems are passed on to your child. In order to get a sense of your beliefs, and the obstacles you create for yourself and your child, I’m offering some insights into how you can handle what you want, and what you’d like to achieve. Consider the following questions and write down the answers for a more powerful understanding.
What was the most difficult childhood memory I had, and on some level, am I carrying it over into my present life?
Can I forgive those people / person I saw as responsible?
The best childhood memory I have of my mother and my father are…….
After responding to these questions, try to formulate a vivid picture of what you want as a parent. You may have a new insight concerning the similarities and differences of your parenting style, compared to your parents.
Here’s something else to write down: I want to be a parent who is able to……..
I would like to have this type of relationship with my child……..
It’s very important to be clear about what you want in order to move forward toward your vision.
Your answers will come from your heart, and this is part of spiritual parenting.
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