As we all know, parenting and teaching children who are termed “gifted” (and this could certainly include children diagnosed with ADD and ADHD who are often in special education classes) can be particularly stressful. These children have high energy, a demanding curiosity, and a profound intensity about finding answers to both theoretical and practical questions.
Some of the parents I have worked with seemed to think they were out of resources to handle their “gifted” child and were exhausted and frustrated. My one word of advice is to take good care of your own physical and mental well-being, even if it sounds selfish to you. You need to be modeling a healthy life for your very observant child. If you cave in, what is your child to think, and where would he/she go for answers that only your good instincts provide?
You have options, of course, options that would include taking time for yourself every day, whether to de-stress through exercise, meditate, take a walk in nature, or meet a friend for coffee. “Not possible” you say in your ultra busy day. For your consideration, 45 minutes to an hour a day for self-reflection and or some type of physical exercise can help you “blow off” accumulated stress. Close the door to your room and listen to tranquil music while you do some deep diaphragmatic breathing. Google styles of yoga breathing if you can’t get out of the house.
Another thing to do is to approach your child’s teacher(s) as the caring and hardworking professionals most of us are. Teachers should be made aware of best methods to keep the child engaged in learning, which is often easier to manage in the classroom. They also have many more resources available than you may have.
If you are trying to strategize ways to help your “gifted” child, here’s a resource that can help you. Try researching The Davidson Institute for Talent Development. They take a holistic approach to supporting kids with exceptional abilities which encompasses personality, thinking, and learning styles, as well as emotional development. Be an advocate for your child by learning from books, people, websites and your own instincts.