Here’s a set of tools for you to consider when life seems to be giving you one too many blows. I use these tools randomly, depending on the situation, and you’ll find they are very beneficial and also something you can share with your child.
Tool #1- Acceptance
Accept that emotional / mental pain is part of life, and is not intended to upset your day or your child’s day. Accepting the emotional upheavals, allows you to move through it and come out the other side. By denying pain, you are pushing it inside, where you’ll hold onto it, and where it will fester. Accepting what you can’t change, allows you to realize that everything has a beginning, middle, and end. Remind yourself where you are in the timeline, and know you’ll reach the end. At the end of a painful experience, we will learn something important which probably couldn’t be learned any other way.
Tool #2- Help Someone Else
Helping someone else is a fantastic way to keep us from being overwhelmed by our own problems. Often we will find people whose pain is greater than our own, and we come to realize our lives aren’t as bad as we think they are. Other times, as we help others, it can give us such a good feeling, it overrides our own emotional pain.
Tool #3- Breathe
Like I’ve explained in other blogs, focusing on the breath, and doing conscious breathing is easy to learn, works quickly, and can be used virtually anytime. Begin by noticing your breath, and gradually let it slow and deepen. Breathe into your belly like a bellows and slowly send the breath up to your chest holding for a few seconds. Let the breath out from the chest / lungs, and then your belly as you contract it.
You can also lie on the floor and place a book on your stomach and breathe so that the book goes up and down. In this way, you are doing diaphragmatic breathing. Conscious breathing is a great way to reduce stress. You will also sleep better if you do it before bed. Do at least 6 to 12 rounds.
Tool #4-Gratitude List
Expressing gratitude is a common tool to re-set your emotional barometer. Of course, it can be difficult to be grateful for anything if your life is going topsey-turvey. If you take the task seriously doing it daily, and begin by finding six things to be grateful for, not only will your feelings change, but it’s been proven through quantum physics that your frequency raises. When this happens, you attract better circumstances / people into your life. Make it a discipline and write / repeat what you are grateful for on a daily basis. Sometimes, spiritual miracles can occur if you keep up with this.