In a fairly recent blog, I spoke about a breathing exercise to calm your child. I wrote about breathing into the solar plexus by inhaling through the mouth and expanding the abdomen while pulling the breath into the solar plexus area (below your chest but above your abdomen). That wasn’t the whole technique but you can read about it should you be interested. This type of breathing has quite a calming effect as well as metabolic benefits for overweight children and adults. If you want to know more about this technique, please send me an email.
In this blog I’d like to focus on how to identify the needs and moods of your child to help calm him/her, and to help find answers and solve problems by guiding the child to use his own intuition.
I suggest helping kids to take an optimism break if they need a mood shift or a shot of vitality.
1- How about helping your child find ways to help others through local organizations or even volunteering in a food bank. Doing something nice for someone else focuses the attention on sharing, which develops empathy and compassion.
2- Here’s another way to destress your child. Help the child to acknowledge his emotions, and make a conscious shift by asking the following questions:
What feelings are running in your body?
Can you feel where they’re located and can you breathe into that area until you feel it lightening?
What is causing you to feel this way?
Why are you so angry?
These questions call attention to the mood of the child. If you’re dealing with a younger child, you might ask the child to tell a story of what happening in sequential order. Then, have the child close his eyes and view the scene on an imagined TV or movie screen by putting in the video tape. Have the youngster edit the sequence by cutting the tape into strips and re-editing the beginning at the end, or changing the middle to keep the story out of sequence. Have the child tell you whether he sees it in black and white or color, and then have him do it again using the alternate (bl/wh or color). When this part is done, have the child remove the video and destroy it in any way he wants. He could burn it, or send it up into the clouds in helium balloons. Let the child use his imagination. This is a great way to fool the brain into expunging a bad experience, because the brain doesn’t know the difference between reality and imagination. You can use this technique yourself. Have fun with it.