According to recent research from the Amen Clinics, leaders in brain research and neuro development, there are four types of parents. You may fit into one of these categories, and it is interesting to take note.
The first type of parent is loving and firm. – This is the most effective parent according to the research because a loving and firm parent demands respect and believes their child needs to mind them the first time. They’re also reinforcing and warm, positive and uplifting. They know how to give options to the child, and yet they have high expectations for good behavior.
The second type of parent is loving and permissive. The upside is that these parents are certainly loving and kind, and the downside is they are enablers. When a parent is too permissive, it is not healthy for the child. When a child is used to getting their way through tantrums and manipulation, what happens is that the behavior continues at school, with peers, and into later life.
Another type of parent is known to be hostile and firm. This is a Military Sergeant type of parent. They want it done their way, and there is no compromising. They get their way through anger and intimidation.
Last on the list is the hostile and permissive parent. – This is a uniquely bad combination according to the research. Here we have a parent who is really inadequate to raise a child, as they don’t care, and are detached from the child. There is a total lack of bonding, and inadequate supervision of the child. The kids living with this type of parent will usually grow up not caring about others, and can even hurt others without it affecting their conscience, and without a clear direction in their lives.