I was recently reading that about 70% of adults have some form of ADD.  I would count myself in that group and ironically, I’m a teacher of kids with ADD and ADHD.

This may explain why we forget where we put our keys, whether we’ve even brushed our teeth or taken medication. Scientific research tells us that we can only hold 4 chunks of information in our working memory for a brief period of time.  A chunk could even be one word. So, think about losing your keys because you are multi-tasking in the morning and trying to get your household in order before the day begins.  We have the illusion that we are conscious of hundreds of things at one time: colors, things moving around us, awareness of what we are striving to achieve are all examples.

However, in actuality we are only aware of a tiny bit of info at a time and as you’ll probably agree, it’s almost impossible to remember any sentence that has seven or more words.

There’s always an upside to everything and in this situation it is that we do have a benefit to our abbreviated memory.  We just can’t focus on a positive and negative experience simultaneously. The sensation of pain, whether emotional or physical will always diminish when we think of something pleasurable. Try it if you don’t believe me. And, teach your children to do this simple technique.

According to author and neuro-scientist, Mark Waldman, in his e-book, Neuro-Wisdom, “The brain has preferences to embed negative emotions because the organism needs to respond to future threats faster than our conscious mind can respond.”  He explains, “When a real emergency takes place like someone driving their car into your lane, the consciousness in your frontal lobe is turned down so that your instinctual reactions can take evasive action.”

The more you think about the possibility that something awful may happen, the more your brain releases the stress chemicals to prepare the body for the “fight or flight” response.

Building optimism and a way to deal with negative thoughts and stress involves a ratio according to Dr. Waldman.  It was determined in an independent study done by Fredrickson, Gottman and Losada that when the number of positive and negative ratios is  is 5:1,  that is, 5 positive thoughts/experiences vs. 1 negative one, we have much more peace of mind and self-satisfaction. This ratio will avoid the brain’s propensity to turn negative experiences into memories which then engender beliefs that we act upon.

So, okay there are a multitude of techniques which help you own this ratio and which of course is important to teach to youngsters.  The one I’ll highlight today is called the Flip Switch Technique pioneered by Dr. Robert Anthony whose transitional self-hypnosis books and audios can easily be found on line.  Please refer to my blog in and find Dr. Anthony’s Flip Switch Technique written on August 26th 2014 under the heading Neuro-Science -Creating a Paradigm Shift. You may also look at the following blogs for more techniques/info. June 8, 2015, Right Intention, Sept 1. 2014, The Vibration of Appreciation.


Subconscious Programs You Share With Your Children

Our parents play a huge role in how we perceive the world and how we parent our own children. We learn to perceive the environment as our parents do and pick up signals from them.

These perceptions are stored on a cellular level. It is said by the Jesuit order that a child is totally formed in thought and belief by the age of seven.

Here are some examples of programs that may have been installed in the software of your brain, and which you are unknowingly passing on to your children.

* Life is a struggle with very few positive moments

* I’ll never amount to anything

* The rich get richer and the poor get poorer

* I have to be on my vigil all the time and it’s exhausting

* This just isn’t the right time for me to start making changes

* I need a lot of luck to get what I want

If we don’t consciously get rid of limiting beliefs, it creates an inner pressure. How can we make the most evolved choices when our thinking is distorted by the beliefs ingrained since childhood?

These beliefs are the information packet we are holding in our subconscious and which we unwittingly pass along to our children.

A toolbox is necessary for us to dig deeper and prevent the programs from running us. A while back I mentioned the Flip Switch Technique I learned from Dr. Robert Anthony, author and hypnotist.

The flip switch is easy to learn. Every time you have a negative thought, and we all have plenty during the course of the day, flip the thought to something positive and dwell on the positive thought for 15 seconds. This is because in 15 seconds new neural pathways are forged in the brain, and you will condition your brain to think positively, attracting or magnetizing more positive situations into your life.

The more clearly you envision a positive situation, putting the emotion behind it, the more advancement you will make in what’s called brain plasticity. You are expunging the negative programming, and replacing it with a positive program. You can even do it when you’re stopped at a traffic light. It’s so easy and so effective.